I am a passionate mother of two beautiful daughters and in large part became a doula because of what they taught me through their births. I dedicate my practice to them and their future: one that values the mother and children at the heart of society.
I first became pregnant at 23. While becoming a mother felt like the most natural thing in the world, when thinking about the birth I felt only fear. I was determined to discover a ‘better’ way and so sought the kind-hearted guidance and counsel of a midwife friend. There aren’t enough words of thanks for what she gave me: good information, making me aware of my options and my rights, and most importantly I understood to trust my body. I became confident, excited, empowered. Three months later, I was very blessed to deliver my daughter myself surrounded in love and joy in hospital.
After my first pregnancy I knew I wanted to birth my second at home. I asked my midwife friend to support me and benefitted so much from the experienced support and unwavering presence she provided before and throughout the birth. I danced, I ate, I relaxed, I listened to my body. My daughter arrived in the warmth and love of our bed. I didn’t move far from that spot for the next five days. Totally in love.
Both births led me to understand how empowering and positive birth can be. I wanted to be able to offer others the kind care and access to information that I experienced, and so decided to become a doula. At the heart of this decision is a deep knowing that our bodies are incredible and through self-love, relaxing and faith in them, a new experience of birth and life itself is accessible.
I believe in living. I believe in birth. I believe in the sweat of love and in the fire of truth.
– Assata Ashakur
In 2017 I trained with Nurturing Birth. Then studied with Michel Odent and Liliana Lammers, Paramana Doula course. I came to better understand birth as an involuntary physiological process which unfolds most effectively when it is undisturbed, when the thinking brain (or neo-cortex) is switched off and when the birthing woman feels safe.
As a new doula, I am mentored by the lovely Mars Lord of Abuela Doulas.
things i know
Women are awesome. Our bodies are made to birth our babies. Birth is natural and sacred. Every birth is different. We are infinitely creative and resilient. Science is cool. And sisterhood is one of the most powerful and under-utilised resources.
I have personal experience of homebirth, birth in hospital and breastfeeding. I’ve also come to know how even with greatest of trust in our bodies, sometimes things do not go to plan. I have personal experience of miscarriage and traversing post-partum anxiety and depression.
“You have to be your own teacher.”
A bit more about me
- Fascinated by ancestry, culture and family heritage
- I have an undergraduate degree in Swahili and Development Studies
- Laughter is the best medicine. And being in nature. Laughter and nature. Job done.
- I love massages, eating, playing imaginary games with my girls and lucid dreaming
- Will sing harmonies to pretty much every song
- In a past work-life I organised badass music festivals in Zanzibar, East Africa
- You are awesome. Fact.
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