I am a passionate one and a mother of three (two of my womb, one bonus) and in large part became a birth keeper because of what they taught me through their births and continue to show me about myself.
I was 24 and pregnant and while becoming a mother felt like the most natural thing in the world, when thinking about the birth I was shook. I sought the kind-hearted guidance and counsel of a midwife friend. There aren’t enough words of gratitude for what she gave me: good information, awareness that I had choices, options, rights, – most importantly I came to understand to trust my body. I became confident, excited, ready. Three months later, I birthed my daughter surrounded in love and joy in hospital.
After my first pregnancy I wanted to birth my second at home. I navigated consultant led care, induction and lots of undermining fearful energy around my plans. I enlisted the support of my friend to support me as a birth companion and benefitted first hand from the experienced support and unwavering presence she provided before and throughout the birth as well as my partner. I danced, I ate, I relaxed, I listened to my body. Our baby arrived in the warmth and love of the bed, and I tried not to move far from that spot from as long as possible
Both births led me to understand that birth is spiritual, raw, enormous, life changing. I want to offer my community the deeply personal and kind care they want, access to information, knowledge of our power. At the heart of this decision is a deep knowing that life, our intuition and our bodies are incredible and through building our connection with that awareness and belief in ourselves, new possibilities of birth and parenthood become available.
I believe in living.
I believe in birth.
I believe in the sweat of love and in the fire of truth.
– Assata Shakur
In 2017 I trained with Nurturing Birth. Then studied with Michel Odent and Liliana Lammers, Paramana Doula course. I came to better understand birth as an involuntary physiological process which unfolds most effectively when it is undisturbed, when the thinking brain (or neo-cortex) is switched off and when the birthing woman feels safe.
It has been an honour to serve and love every family that I have supported who have taught me so much.
I am mentored by some incredible birth workers including Mars Lord of Abuela Doulas.
things i know
Humans and wombs are awesome. The mystery in birth, in the unknown can be embraced. Birth is natural and sacred first and foremost. Every birth is different. We are infinitely creative and resilient. Our experiences are consequences of our mindset, habits and our environment. Science is cool. Sisterhood creates magic.
I have personal experience of undisturbed homebirth, birth in hospital and breastfeeding. I’ve also come to know how even with greatest of trust in our bodies, sometimes things do not go to plan. I have personal experience of miscarriage and traversing post-partum anxiety and depression.
“You have to be your own teacher.”
A bit more about me
- Fascinated by culture and heritage
- of Jamaican, Irish, Scottish heritage + ancestral reimaginings
- I was adopted, reconnected with birth family and now have a very big family
- I have an undergraduate degree in Swahili and Development Studies (SOAS)
- Laughter and honey, best medicine. And being in nature. Job done.
- Massages, eating, playing imaginary games with my girls and lucid dreaming
- Will sing harmonies to pretty much every song
- In a past work-life I organised badass music festivals in Zanzibar, East Africa
- You are awesome. Fact.
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